Thursday, May 1, 2008

Single in the City

I don't do blind dates. I just don't envision high rates of success for such things. I'm way too picky and I have a hard enough time finding people I might be interested in so it’s hard for me to put much faith into someone else being able to get the job done. Besides, I am most definitely a person who reacts to chemistry and this has proven to not bode well for 'good on paper' guys. Don't get me wrong...I'm not exactly filled with pride over some of my dating history but it is what it is. You've gotta be able to feel 'it', and there are not too many people out there that give me that feeling. But never say never, right?!

As I mentioned in my previous post, I was in New York for a couple days in an attempt to become the next Giselle. It was supposed to be a quick turnaround trip with little to no free time but I ended up staying an extra day in order to not make unnecessary cross country flights. That gave me an extra day in the city with absolutely no obligations. I spend enough time in Tucson hanging out by myself so I really wanted to be able to socialize but none of my acquaintences came to my rescue. Not like the list was terribly long, I really only know 1 1/2 people, but you'd think it wouldn't be so difficult to find some company. Not the case.

I ended up texting a friend in the area to see what he was up to and asked him if he'd be able to find me a hot date for the evening. I was actually 99% kidding. Sure, the idea of eating alone or odering room service was not that appealing, but atleast I know my own company is enjoyable. And if I was really that hard up I'd probably have more luck accepting the advances of one of the strangers I'd met on the street that day while I was out walking around. By the way...men in New York are far more complimentary than men in most other places. Has anyone else found that to be true? And not just your annoying catcalls but genuine comments. Even my hotdog vendor said he had a thing for me. New york is great for the confidence!

But after some joking around back and forth I finally became convinced that it might not be that bad. He assured me that he was a good guy and not bad on the eyes. He rattled off a bunch of positive attributes, so much so that it reminded me of an ad you’d place in the paper. The only thing he forgot to mention was that he loved long walks on the beach and romantic candlelit dinners. And he actually had decent stats. He was black, white, and native american—which in my mind can never produce an ugly outcome. He was tall…a good build. If nothing else, eye candy right?! In fact, he actually said he resembled Jason Taylor a little bit. Hold up…not the only reason I have even watched an episode of Dancing with the Stars Jason Taylor? Do not play with my emotions! But in my head I’m thinking it is highly doubtful that there is another human being roaming the earth that is as beautiful as Jason Taylor who happens to be single and a friend of someone I know. But even if he’s a bad version of J.T., that still might not be half bad. Besides, it was just a meal, not an arranged marriage. So I gave him the thumbs up and told him to go ahead and make the match but only if the guy didn’t think it was weird and/or desperate and he wasn’t busy.

But he WAS busy. And all the sudden I found myself being slightly disappointed in something I initially thought would be a huge waste of time. Not to mention his busyness stemmed from a prior commitment at church. I happen to find that to be a bit of a turn-on.

So this whole blog is about a meeting that never happened. Exciting, right?! It actually sums up my current dating life quite well. I had to make do with room service and an episode of America’s Next Top Model…how’s that for a fabulous night in New York City. But I was willing to give it a shot and that’s pretty huge for me. I guess it just wasn’t meant to be. And no, this does not mean I am taking applications for my next blind date. I still hold the same beliefs for the most part, unless you can show absolute proof that you do in fact resemble J.T.

11 comments:

Jewells said...

Ahhh, the lovely world of singleness. Nothing like it. Booooo!

Maybe you'll find a nice, hot tenderoni in Jamaica=)

T.R.E.N.T. said...

sorry about your luck in that dept. seems like its like that for most but o well. and yea, this is the same ol' "T.R.E.N.T." lol

anonymousnupe said...

Unless it was a closed meeting or something like that, maybe you shoulda joined dude at prayer meeting , or whatever, at church and grabbed coffee afterwards.

Or would that have appeared too forward or desperate? What would you have thought had the roles been reversed and he showed up at church just to meet you? Just wondering.

Jasmine said...

oh, crap, i'm laughing so hard right now!! when has church become a turn-on for you? isn't that blasphemous?! :)
i tried calling you a BAZILLION times...for sitting alone in a hotel room, you sure can make a girl feel all alone here in orange county! ;) and, yes, i DID you your bazillion voicemails! :)

Bianca said...

Church?! Oh you KNOW I love him already!

I called you yesterday and today but your phone is off. What's the deal? Please call me before you leave...

Anonymous said...

Ms. Glenn,
It is really, really hard for me to get my mind around the idea that a young, fit and attractive woman can’t get an “on-the-spot” date, even in a different locale. Heck, even an old, worn-out single father like myself can get an evening date. But, then I must remember it is probably more problem-filled on the female side getting some decent company, the kind with no, um, shall I say, physical “expectations”.
Of course I’ve probably got lower standards than you, being a realistic guy, lol. Just a few weeks ago, while in LA for a week, I decided to “readjust” again. So when I ran into “her” while washing out the stinky running gear, at the Coin-Op Laundry on Century just before Western (by the Food4Less), I figured that PJ bottoms and house slippers in public wasn’t so bad…
Had a nice time…
And, No, I didn’t tell the kids.
Daniel

PS. Considering Jewell’s suggestion of a Tenderoni (wasn’t that a song too?) in Jamacia, well, maybe Jonathan Plummer’s got a brother…

Anonymous said...

Ooops, that’s “Jamaica”. My bad.
Daniel

Skinny Girl said...

Hehe, just stumbled across your blog. Love it!!
S X

Brianna said...

@nupe...yes, that would be too forward and desperate, at least for me. shoot, agreeing to meeting him in the first place seems desperate in my eyes.

@jaz...i called you last!

@bi...you know i would have tried to pass him on to you if he didn't click with me. :) and i'm out of the country already. :( email me.

@daniel...it's not the "finding" part, it's the "worth it" part.

anonymousnupe said...

So, what's your answer to my second question?

Eb the Celeb said...

Girl... NY men are good too look at and that is all they have no depth... its just as hard finding a good man here as it is in any other city... There just aint enough of them to go around...

Now NYC men do have a swagger like no other man holds on the earth... and that's whats keeps you intrigued and engaged... often times putting up with ish that you normally wouldnt..

ugh... we love to hate em