Friday, March 14, 2008

Unexpected

You know when you have a run-in with somebody that is totally unexpected? And then all the sudden your blood begins to boil. You instantly are reminded of what that person did/said that caused you to put them in that category of ‘not my favorite people’ and even though it might not have ever been discussed they should totally be aware that they are in fact NOT one of your favorite people. Obviously it’s usually someone of the opposite sex. So now you are confronted with an uncomfortable situation and you feel unprepared. What do you do? Do you acknowledge them like everything is cool? Do you ignore them? Maybe you go for something in the middle. Like a half-wave that says yes, I acknowledge your existence and I am not petty enough to just straight up ignore you but I obviously don’t think very highly of you and I hope that you can sense that—without getting the idea that I care too much. And what if they take it one step further and come up and talk to you? I guess it’s time to start practicing what I will say now. I should probably run about 4 different scenarios through my head. Wait…no. I can’t say that. I sound bitter. I most definitely do not want to sound bitter. Because really I don’t even care. I mean, if it wasn’t for the fact that this particular person is in my direct eyesight I wouldn’t be giving them a second thought but now I’m reminded of …whatever. But now I’m confused about how to go about my business as if they aren’t there. If I make it a purpose to not look their direction is it obvious that I’m intentionally not looking that way? Because I definitely don’t want it to seem like it matters either way. I’m trying to be nonchalant, as if they don’t matter—because THEY DON’T. But I am still irritated. I don’t know why, I just am.

Does anybody else have these experiences, or am I just a head-case?

15 comments:

Jasmine said...

No, you're just a headcase.
Too bad for you.

;)

Nigel "6five" Bigbee said...

HAHAHAHA That's funny. I have a few of those people and they get the stupid look while we are both being very fake talking to each other like we the best friends.

Zzz said...

I can really relate Bri to your message. I have the same problem with a person in my life. But lets face it the world is filled with people that are just not worth the time. We are on this spinning rock only a short while. As a fan I don’t want to see you waste energy and distract you from your goal. As an athlete you know how easy it is to have your energy drained. I myself have taken the high road being civil but not giving them the satisfaction. Life is too short just surround yourself with positive people and kicked the others to the curb. By the way I agree with your last posting that the best is yet to come for you!

melanie said...

mmmm...i'm with jasmine.
headcase ;op

Nikkie T said...

I think I know who this is. Which makes it funny cause the person I'm thinking of would either be totally clueless to the fact that you have no interest at all in talking to him- I almost think he would expect you to be happy to run into him.

Nikkie T said...

I didn't finish my comment cause this just entered my head-
"... and I'm missing you, and nobody knows it but me..."
???

Jackie Edwards said...

Hey Bri, I am just amused because I can picture the look on your face and that in and of itself is priceless:)

eclectik said...

I wouldnt say head case at all...I do however dig the ability to explain it so well LOL
We've all be there...to only master the ignoring art LOL

This blog is the greatest...WHY are you all the way on the left coast!?

Just wow.

e.

Jewells said...

You're not alone. It's hard to avoid the situation, so I would just speak, only if he speaks first, though. Either way, I'd keep it moving, which I'm sure you have no problem doing.

Torrance Stephens bka All-Mi-T said...

yep, happens to me often, i just hate when i cannot recant of them, the experience or where we met until a key word comes in, and even worse when u dont recall heir name

Came UP! said...

I’m having frequent run-ins with females who have dissed me or told lies on me in the past. I’ve had few of these females message me on my MySpace page in order to reconnect. But it’s hard for me to respect a woman who dissed me when I was driving a 1987 Yugo…..but now they want to “become friends” or “keep in touch” or start a relationship now that people refer to me as Doctor. I truly do not have any bitterness towards any female who rejected me or tried to damage my good name….. I just find myself not having much to say…..and the type of woman I was attracted to a few years ago is not the same type of woman I’m attracted to now. It’s not in my character to lie or deceive anyone and I hate being fake so I very kindly let these women know that I’m not interested in establishing a relationship with them. When I see them in public I genuinely speak but keep the conversation to a minimum, if any, and never answer any personal questions! If they try to keep the conversation going I give them the attention and the face a female gives a guy at the gym who is trying to holla while she’s trying to workout! LOL!

Brianna said...

LOL @ the face we give guys at the gym...especially those of us that are really there to work out!

anonymousnupe said...

I think it's a girl thing. Guys can typically genuinely not give the person a second thought, even when in the same room with them. Or maybe that's just me. This holds true until the idiot begins to display the same behavior that bestowed this status upon them in the first place.

Missed you at the Nike Indoor Nationals in Maryland this weekend. Got pics and autographs with Ginnie Powell, Reese Hoffa and Wallace Spearmon.

Brianna said...

Oh I am pretty sure it's a "girl" thing. Along the lines of that whole mars/venus thing!

Marcus LANGFORD said...

I feel soon enough I may be faced with this type of situation and I honestly do not know how I will handle it. Because I was emotionally hurt by this person, I am sure if I will choke them out or simply ignore them and keep it moving. Only time will tell how I will handle this issue.

Marcus LANGFORD