Wednesday, November 7, 2007

The Wrong Foot

I expect a certain code of conduct when I first start hanging out with someone--things that I consider common courtesy and just an all around gentlemanly way of doing things. I would never call myself high maintenance. I realize that just because I don’t, doesn’t mean other people don’t see me that way, but hey, this is my blog and I call it like I see it! Back to my point…so if I’m interested in someone and they’re interested in me, then it is important that things get started on the right foot. What’s the wrong foot you ask? Well let me tell you…

Let me start off by saying that I am a huge fan of blockbuster nights. I’m also a fan of a plethora of t.v. shows and there is much enjoyment to be found in cuddling up on the couch in front of the tube. I might even be excited to cook, on occasion, one of the maybe five dishes I feel confident in making for company. But all of that comes later, or is at least mixed in with other outdoor activities. That’s not how we are going to start out. First off, it shows a lack of effort. If you are interested in dating me then guess what? Take me on a DATE! Honestly, I can watch t.v. just fine by myself, in fact it will probably be even more enjoyable because I am able to watch exactly what I want to watch and I have a sneaking suspicion it will probably differ from what you want to watch. But the main thing is that we shouldn’t have that comfort level yet and it just seems a little lazy to me.

Another point I want to add that is somewhat related is that it’s not o.k. to ask to come over really late. It gives me the wrong impression of you and makes me think you have the wrong impression of me. Of course, it could be completely innocent and maybe you would just love to see me and have been terribly busy all day, but I prefer to be penciled in soon after the sun sets, not when it is approaching midnight. That’s not too much to ask. I realize people have to work their way up in the priority status but if that’s the best you can do then it’s really not good enough. Call me when your schedule is a little less hectic.

When point number one is combined with point number two what we have is a match not made in heaven. My time is valuable, even when I’m not working out or doing anything productive with my days. I still like to feel as if someone is interested in getting to know me and doesn’t just view me as someone to pass some time with. I guess some people think that being in their presence is good enough. Not so.

7 comments:

Teej said...

You know Bri...we all have standards and there is nothing wrong with wishing someone to meet those standards. But what you just laid out is basic babe. Like who wouldnt know these things. Like you said 'common courtesy'.

melanie said...

umm yeah. that's like, PRE-dating 101. he's out for sure. who is this moron, anyway, and who does he think he's dealing with?
oh, yeah...might be a moron with internet access, i guess.
just text me ;o)

T.V. said...

For someone who is modern and independent, you sure have an old fashion soul. I like that.

But like what was said before, certain "rules" are a must know. If guys don't know these "rules" then they don't respect you. They see you as being easy, and will therefore try to take advantage of you and the dating situation.

Nikkie T said...

What's funny is that the older we get, the less sense some guys seem to have. In college, everybody had to take us on real dates if they really liked us- it was nothing that HAD to be expressed, that's just how it was...It's crazy. What happened it people being on their best behavior and trying to make a good impression when they are trying to "take it there"?. Where are the representatives??? You know, when you first meet someone you don't really meet them, you meet their representative- their representative is there to make the right plans, say the right things and do the right things. Either the representatives have been on strike lately, or these guys have poor representatives... And if someone's representative is wack, you really don't want to waste your time!!!

Brittany...the better looking sister said...

Jeez, if I would have had those rules I probably wouldn't be married today. Thanks for making me feel like I have low standards! haha. It's weird because I don't ever think I looked at things that way. Like that person was being lazy or all these 'rules' that must be followed. That kinda seems like you're taking almost all the fun out of dating and making it a huge test! And we all know tests aren't fun. You should consider the differences in people. Yes, one guy might have taken you to all the right food places, bought the right kind of flowers and said all the right things, but doesn't that get boring? Maybe this fella is just different and shows he cares in different ways? I dunno.. he could just be a dirtbag. But just maybe he doesn't see things the same way as how you'd like him to. Sometimes that shouldn't be considered a 'bad' thing, or a reason to write someone off right away.

Brianna said...

i don't ask for much...a cup of coffee while there is still sunlight out is all!

eclectik said...

Well damn.

Lets go get a smoothie