Let me start off by saying that I am a huge fan of blockbuster nights. I’m also a fan of a plethora of t.v. shows and there is much enjoyment to be found in cuddling up on the couch in front of the tube. I might even be excited to cook, on occasion, one of the maybe five dishes I feel confident in making for company. But all of that comes later, or is at least mixed in with other outdoor activities. That’s not how we are going to start out. First off, it shows a lack of effort. If you are interested in dating me then guess what? Take me on a DATE! Honestly, I can watch t.v. just fine by myself, in fact it will probably be even more enjoyable because I am able to watch exactly what I want to watch and I have a sneaking suspicion it will probably differ from what you want to watch. But the main thing is that we shouldn’t have that comfort level yet and it just seems a little lazy to me.
Another point I want to add that is somewhat related is that it’s not o.k. to ask to come over really late. It gives me the wrong impression of you and makes me think you have the wrong impression of me. Of course, it could be completely innocent and maybe you would just love to see me and have been terribly busy all day, but I prefer to be penciled in soon after the sun sets, not when it is approaching midnight. That’s not too much to ask. I realize people have to work their way up in the priority status but if that’s the best you can do then it’s really not good enough. Call me when your schedule is a little less hectic.
When point number one is combined with point number two what we have is a match not made in heaven. My time is valuable, even when I’m not working out or doing anything productive with my days. I still like to feel as if someone is interested in getting to know me and doesn’t just view me as someone to pass some time with. I guess some people think that being in their presence is good enough. Not so.